You’re A Bridesmaid. How Can You Help With Wedding Planning?

Congratulations! You’re A Bridesmaid!

If you’ve planned a wedding before, you know it’s no easy feat. There’s a lot to manage. The venue, the guest list, the catering, the flowers, the photographer. The list goes on. There’s more to do than most couples realise.

If you’re a complete wedding newbie, you may be wondering what’s your role in all of this.  Well, we’re afraid there’s no ‘one size fits all’. That is, it comes down to what the couple wants. Some couples don’t want any help with their wedding plans. Some do.

Either way, it’s always nice to show willing and offer to help somewhere along the line.  So for those of you who want to offer a helping hand, here are some practical ideas for ways in which you can help out.

TOP TIP: If you’re thinking you haven’t got the time or the inclination to help out the happy couple, that’s okay. Yes you heard right! Skip down to the bottom of the blog post to see why.

How You Can Help If You Know LOTS About Weddings

If you have been a bridesmaid before, planned a wedding yourself or just love weddings, you will know how you can help out with wedding planning. You know where your strengths lie.  Here are 5 examples of how you could offer to help out:

  1. ‘I have mad bunting making skills – if you want me to make you some for your wedding, let me know’.
  2. ‘I know this amazing wedding blog – I think you would love it.’
  3. ‘I have all this confetti left over from my wedding – you can have it if you want’.
  4. ‘I have a stack of old wedding magazines that I am finished with – do you want them?’
  5. ‘I researched everything there is to know about flowers when I got married! I know A LOT about which flowers are in season when you are getting married. Let me know if you want me to talk you through your options.’

As you can see, you don’t have to offer to design the bride’s gown or make the wedding cake to be helpful  Small gestures go a long way.

Know Nothing About Weddings?

Still Want To Help Out? No Problem.

Yeah but seriously how can I help with wedding planning?  At this point, you may be thinking something along these lines:

‘What can I do? I haven’t even been to a wedding before!’
‘I can’t sew bunting! Are you crazy?!’

Both are valid points! If you’re worried you know nothing about weddings, think outside the box. There are always ways in which you can help.  Here are 5 examples of how you could offer to help out:

  1. ‘I have a friend who is an amazing florist – here is his number!’
  2. ‘I know you mentioned you want to use jam jars to display flowers. Let me know if you want me to collect any.’
  3. ‘I know your family are flying in the day before the wedding. Let me know if you want me to pick them up from the airport?’
  4. ‘I know this great band that I think you’d love. I can put you in touch if you’d like?’
  5. ‘I would be more than happy to taste lots of wedding cakes with you.’

Let’s be honest. The last example is a win win situation. Such a selfless act but someone’s got to taste the wedding cake!  You can see how you don’t have to offer the earth to help out. After all your life doesn’t need to go on hold just because your friend is getting married. It’s all about balance.  That being said…

What If You Don’t Want To Help With Wedding Planning?

Wedding planning isn’t for everyone.  You may not be the slightest bit interested in planning a wedding.  That’s what wedding planners are for right?  If this is how you feel, that’s okay!  Yes you heard right…

Not everyone needs to get involved in the wedding planning.  After all, the couple may not want any help. They may have it all in hand.  Or you may just be far too busy / live far away / etc to help out.  That’s okay. Just let your bestie know how excited you are for the big day! They’ll appreciate the thought.

Do What Feels Right

At the end of the day, you’ve got to do what feels right.  Each set of circumstances is unique. You will be able to judge from your relationship whether it’s appropriate to offer help and when you should do it.  After all you know your bestie best. That’s why you’re a bridesmaid.


What Do You Think?

We hope you’ve found this blog post helpful!

How are you helping out? Let us know in the comments below.

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