There is nothing more exciting than being asked by one of your best friends to be a bridesmaid! It’s a real honour being part of your friend’s big day. It may be something you’ve dreamed of for years. But now you’re a bridesmaid, you’re not quite sure what to expect. You may be wondering what does being a bridesmaid actually entail?
What happens between the day you are asked and the day you walk down the aisle? In this blog post, we will outline what the next few months could look like for you.
On day one, you will likely find out who the other bridesmaids are (if any at all). They could be your best friends. Or they could be total strangers to you. So over the next few months, you may spend some time getting to know everyone.
The likelihood is you will soon be invited to join a joint messaging group. This could be through Facebook, on Whatsapp or could be via email. Getting to know each other early on is a good idea to break the ice. It also means you can easily discuss the logistics of the wedding and the all important hen party!
*Or not. Some couples want help. Others don’t! You’ll soon find out. They could start wedding planning at a rate of knots. Or they could decide to bide their time with wedding plans. Every bride / groom takes a different approach. You’ll know what to expect, as you know your bestie better than anyone else.
Whether they plan the wedding in 2 months or 2 years, somewhere along the road, they may ask you for help on the big day. For example, you could be asked to give a speech. Or you could be asked to help out with the bride’s hair and make up. There are many different ways you can help on the big day. If you want to be a super duper helpful bridesmaid, OFFER to help. It’ll be appreciated! (Read Top 10 Ways To Be A Helpful Bridesmaid if you want to learn how you can help out)
There is the possibility, you won’t have to lift a finger on the big day. The wedding venue may have everything covered. You may be expected, however to help in the run up to the wedding. For example, you could be asked to find confetti cones, help pick the bride’s dress or decide on a colour palette. More often than not, you won’t be asked to do much until the couple has set a date.
Once the wedding date has been set, you may be asked or expected to take on the rather large role of…planning the hen party! This may sound like a small undertaking but it can become a BIG one.
The key is not to let it overwhelm you.
Once the couple has set a date for the wedding, you can set a date for the hen party. You can’t really organise much before you know when the wedding is. You might be a complete natural when it comes to party planning or you might not be. Either way, we recommend reading the following blog posts to help you plan your hen party:
They should help you establish what the bride expects from her hen party! Once you’ve read the above blog posts, you’ll spend time discussing hen party plans. You’ll need to establish the following before you can book anything:
Once you have spoken to the bride and worked out the details, you’ll book the hen party.
Over the next few months (depending on the timescale between the proposal and the wedding day), you can expect to chat with the bridesmaids frequently.
You’ll need to make sure everything is booked in a timely manner, all the guests know what to expect. Plus you’ll need to manage the hen party budget.
After all that planning and hard work to make sure your bestie has the best send off ever, it’s time to let loose and enjoy yourself! You may have to do the odd job during the hen party after all you are the host.
For example, you may need to pay for the group meal (with the hen party budget) or make sure everyone gets onto the bus. But in the main, the hard work is done and it’s time to have some well earned fun.
Last but not least, the day you’ve been waiting for. It’s the wedding day!
Now you may have been asked to do something very specific on the wedding day. If this is the case, the likelihood is you’ll know at least a week before the big day. But sometimes last minute things go wrong so don’t be surprised if you are asked to do something extra on the day.
It’s important to remember to enjoy yourself. Mingle, hit the dance floor and revel in the fact you are a wedding VIP.
Don’t forget to make sure the bride has all she needs. For example is she juggling her bouquet whilst drinking her glass of champagne? Does she need help going to the loo? Is she likely to cry? Bring some tissues. You get the gist. Small gestures can go a long way. So be on the look out and see how you can help. She’ll appreciate it!
We hope you found this blog post helpful! Comment below with a piece of advice if you have been a bridesmaid before! We’d love to hear from you.
If you want more practical advice on how to be a brilliant bridesmaid, check out the below titles. We hope they help you!